Dame Products 83586: Sex Pillo Indigo

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If either partner is concerned about cleanliness, take a shower beforehand — maybe even together. Then again, Mintz said, the giver may love the smell of sweat after a hard workout. This is why you communicate about your preferences! You can sext or talk in-person. Having a post-coital talk may be easier to muse over what you want to try next time, Reed said. If you're receiving, ask what they like or say what you'd like to do with them. I believe any couple can find at least one use for Pillo. It's an easy, low-tech way to have more pleasurable sex and to get that much closer to your partner.

Don't jump straight to cunnilingus, said Mintz, as it's important to build arousal with other activities first, like making out or breast play. You can warm up by caressing and kissing your partner on the way down. Kissing inner thighs before moving to the actual genitals is also a good move, said Engle. During and after the actBeyond those small snags, Pillo is about as perfect as a sex pillow could be in my opinion. It's the right size for both usage and storage on my bed, and it's versatile no matter what kind of sex you have.Plus, it's in the normal price range for quality sex pillows. Set boundaries, like around if or when the receiver wants to stop. This is imperative if the receiver is an abuse survivor, Mintz added. But those who are inexperienced or perhaps uneducated may ask: How should someone perform cunnilingus? Great sex is all about hitting the right angles, but finding them can take some experimentation. That’s why a sex pillow is game-changing: These cushions are designed to support and direct the body, opening you up to a wider range of feel-good positions. We spoke to experts to figure out how to shop for sex pillows—and which ones will set you up for success. What should you consider when shopping for a sex pillow?

A Mashable Choice Award is a badge of honor, reserved for the absolute best stuff we’ve tested and loved. My partner and I use Pillo every time we're at my place. It's just as mind-blowing an addition to bedroom activities as a sex toy, in my opinion, and there's no motor to be found.Know that neither you nor your partner are perfect, but you don't need to be to experience pleasure. "Each partner will be different and like softer, harder, longer, shorter, fingers, vibrators, lube, or dry — simply just different touch," said Reed. If not, though — or say the receiver is on their period but still wants some oral — there are several options: dental dams, finger condoms, or latex underwear Lorals. First off, talk about wanting to give or receive oral sex with your partner. This is especially important if you're with someone new. Vulvas are unique as snowflakes, said Gigi Engle — ACS, certified sex educator who specializes in gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity — so when you're with a new partner it's fair to assume you're going in blind. Be willing to be flexible; this partner may like different moves than people you've been with in the past. The good news is, there's no one way you "should" go down on someone — but there are important steps. Three sex experts laid out how to best perform cunnilingus, from communication to foreplay. Let's talk about oral sex, baby

There are also pillows shaped like ramps (which you can drape your body across), mounts (which you can hump and grind), cylinders, domes, and wedge-ramp combinations. Almost all are designed with removable covers you can throw in the wash, and some have loops that secure handcuffs and built-in holders for sex toys. Notably, any of these pillows is excellent for both partner and solo play. They expand your “depth-of-penetration options, allowing different angles of reach, so you don’t have to sit up to switch between vibrator modes,” Dr. Queen says. The best sex pillows Consider whether using protection is best for you. STIs can be transmitted through oral sex, so you're not in the clear just because penetration isn't involved. If you and your partner already share bodily fluids (are "fluid bonded") and don't use protection, then you can skip it. To clean the vulva, Mintz advised to separate the labia and wash between them — with either water alone or mild, unscented soap — once a day. Don't use harsh soaps or douches, as that's not good for vaginal health. Pillo is also immensely helpful for tribbing, the sexual act of rubbing vulvas together or rubbing the vulva on another body part, like a thigh. We've used it for a missionary-style position, and also for a scissoring-style tribbing (arranging ourselves like, well, colliding scissors).King explained how sex pillows can help with a variety of positions, including missionary, from behind, and rider-on-top. During the former two, the pillow props up the receiving partner's hips and pelvis to more easily achieve deep penetration. For the latter, a pillow can help the rider bounce more comfortably. Never, ever blow air into the vagina; it can cause a dangerous air embolism. Some people, however, enjoy when you blow on the vulva. Always ask before adding anything new in, like a finger or a toy, but don't change too much at once either. Make one change at a time and see how your partner reacts, said Mintz. Don't be afraid to communicate during the act, either. Neither givers nor receivers can read each others' minds. If your partner moving their tongue ever so slightly to the left will get you off, say so! Oral sex education

Receiving oral can be vulnerable for these reasons or others — say, previous bad experiences. Mintz, who has a PhD in psychology, encourages people to have honest conversations about these fears and worries.

What should you consider when shopping for a sex pillow?

Cunnilingus can be daunting for beginners, said Dr. Chelsie Reed, author of Sexpert: Desire, Passion, Sensations, Intimacy, and Orgasm to Indulge in Your Best Sex Life, as it's not usually taught but is a matter of trial and error . Reed, who has a PhD in psychology, research and evaluation, said we can do better than that. Another downside is that Pillo only comes in one color, indigo. It happens to clash with just about everything in my cream and mauve decor. While Dame touts Pillo as a "master of disguise" that "blends right into your bedroom," I don't find that to be the case for me. That's not a total loss — I'll live, and continue to use Pillo as it's so much fun — but I'll be holding out for more neutral colors.